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FlightWife101 · 09-10-2004, 03:34 PM

I am sure you have heard this before, but you need to set boundaries.
I told my family straight out, I'm really sorry, but weekends are our time. We need to build our relationship, and with him gone all week, our only time together is the weekend. It took about 1.5 years of repeating this for them to back off, not want to come visit us or want us to drive up north all the time. It was easier because it was me telling my family.

Can you plan for your next "once a month" to be at a restuarant half way in between? This will cut down on how long you are expected to visit with them, and give you less of a drive time. During this get together, your husband needs to set the boundaries, maybe by saying, I know the next few weeks are going to be hectic so we will see you at Thanksgiving, if something around the house needs to get done, make a list and I will help you with it them.

09-10-2004, 03:34 PM	#6 (permalink)
FlightWife101 Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: WI Posts: 9 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: Did your families have a hard time understanding? I am sure you have heard this before, but you need to set boundaries. I told my family straight out, I'm really sorry, but weekends are our time. We need to build our relationship, and with him gone all week, our only time together is the weekend. It took about 1.5 years of repeating this for them to back off, not want to come visit us or want us to drive up north all the time. It was easier because it was me telling my family. Can you plan for your next "once a month" to be at a restuarant half way in between? This will cut down on how long you are expected to visit with them, and give you less of a drive time. During this get together, your husband needs to set the boundaries, maybe by saying, I know the next few weeks are going to be hectic so we will see you at Thanksgiving, if something around the house needs to get done, make a list and I will help you with it them.