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Originally Posted by flyershoe  First of all, don't ever apologize for how you feel!
I was always one of those really needy people who needed constant contact and reinforcement. Well, as you know, that has to change really quickly or you'll drive yourself crazy. |
believe you not, after almost 13 years of knowing my husband, i honestly remember being just like this....you need to give yourself time.. 2 months is not nearly enough time to adjust... 2 years, should just about do it - no joke! haha
what you've been doing is a very big no-no in our world and that is: sitting by the phone waiting for him to call.
ask yourself, if you were dating a guy down the street and he said he'd call at a certain time... would you sit by the phone and wait or would you keep moving on thinking he'll leave a message if your not home? does he have your cell phone number? if so, use that as the main number to reach you so you can keep doing the things you normally do without feeling the pressure of "having to wait for HIM".
your causing yourself all this undo stress that honestly, is your own doing... and if you want to make yourself feel better, you need to stop doing it. stop sitting around and waiting, get back out and do the same things you used to do before you met him... if you stop being you, whose he gonna be dating?
the biggest falling out I had in *our* relationship was with myself..I fought myself everyday trying to understand what i needed to change and why (about myself). doug had to fight me against me too (as weird as that sounds). i had to teach myself to go about doing the things i want to do and if he had time for me between flights, i had time for him... if i had time for him while on my errands, he had time for me and as long as i maintained my independence separate from him, he was interested....that's the funny thing about my, now, husband... he absolutely loves how independent i am and how it's so easy for me to get by without him. it seems weird to me because you'd think most guys would want a more dependent girl...but i think pilots need women that can handle the daily goings on without constant stress calls.
btw.. quick question...you talk a lot about him calling you... how often do you call him? do you normally get voicemail or does he normally pick up the phone?