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MQAAord · 06-26-2004, 08:22 PM

Basically you're in the hardest part of a long-time relationship with a pilot, the begining! The junior schedules, sucky pay, and always looking for that 'next step' in the pilot career is tough.

Bill refused to even discuss the big 'M' while we were both at Eagle, when he was TWA he didn't feel 'secure' enough (with the financial instability TWA was undergoing in their last days), then when he was new at Delta it was "well, I'm still on new-hire pay" blah, blah, blah. Finally he got off his duff and we got married, but it was not an easy road. We broke up for a time because I wanted him to 'make up his mind what he wanted from me'. But he came back to me, and we've been together ever since. It'll be nine years next month since we met, I can't belive it's been that long!

I didn't have nearly as difficult a time with his screwy schedule as most s/o's of pilots do, because I am intimatly aware of how the system works. (Having been there done that myself for 7 years.) Just roll with it, enjoy the times you're together, and when you're not, fulfill yourself in other ways, don't sit around being a home-body.

A hint though, when a pilot first gets home from a trip, give him a little 'chill' time. They need time to decompress and relax before they face a Honey-Do list or a dissertation of the many places the cat has hacked up hairballs since he's been gone. The first thing I used to when I'd get back from a trip was get that damned uniform off, there's no better feeling than throwing that smelly pile of polyester across the room and climbing into a nice sweatshirt!

06-26-2004, 08:22 PM	#5 (permalink)
MQAAord Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: A Happy Place Posts: 668 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: It\'s been a while... Basically you're in the hardest part of a long-time relationship with a pilot, the begining! The junior schedules, sucky pay, and always looking for that 'next step' in the pilot career is tough. Bill refused to even discuss the big 'M' while we were both at Eagle, when he was TWA he didn't feel 'secure' enough (with the financial instability TWA was undergoing in their last days), then when he was new at Delta it was "well, I'm still on new-hire pay" blah, blah, blah. Finally he got off his duff and we got married, but it was not an easy road. We broke up for a time because I wanted him to 'make up his mind what he wanted from me'. But he came back to me, and we've been together ever since. It'll be nine years next month since we met, I can't belive it's been that long! I didn't have nearly as difficult a time with his screwy schedule as most s/o's of pilots do, because I am intimatly aware of how the system works. (Having been there done that myself for 7 years.) Just roll with it, enjoy the times you're together, and when you're not, fulfill yourself in other ways, don't sit around being a home-body. A hint though, when a pilot first gets home from a trip, give him a little 'chill' time. They need time to decompress and relax before they face a Honey-Do list or a dissertation of the many places the cat has hacked up hairballs since he's been gone. The first thing I used to when I'd get back from a trip was get that damned uniform off, there's no better feeling than throwing that smelly pile of polyester across the room and climbing into a nice sweatshirt!